I was asked recently by a friend and colleague to write “words of wisdom” for her daughter’s 20th birthday. She asked a wide-ranging group of “Wise Women” to impart their hard-won life lessons to her daughter. An important part of the request was that we were to focus on what we wish we had known when we were 20 years old–what we would tell our 20-year-old self now, after years of life lessons. Here’s what I (Lori Nicholson) wrote. Special thanks to my daughter, Erica Kuhlmann, for creating the Word Heart, which I had made into a canvas for the recipient.